Blue Fern Psychotherapy

You’ve spent years walking on eggshells, shrinking yourself down just to avoid another explosion, silent treatment, or criticism. Maybe it’s your partner, a parent, a sibling—or even a boss—who leaves you questioning your worth, your memories, and your sanity. You’ve started to wonder: Is it really me? Am I the problem? Deep down, though, a small voice inside of you knows—this isn’t healthy. You’re my ideal client if you feel emotionally wrung out after even the simplest conversations. If “I’m sorry” rolls off your tongue more often than “I need.” If you've been told you're too sensitive or too needy—or worse, that you're impossible to love. You’ve done everything you can to keep the peace, to fix things, to be better… and it still isn’t enough. You're not broken. You're not imagining things. And you are not alone. ---------- The People I Work With Are Often... +In or recovering from narcissistic, emotionally manipulative, or controlling relationships. +Questioning if what they’ve experienced is “bad enough” to count as abuse. +Hyper-independent or struggle with anxiety —sometimes both. +Intuitive, empathic, thoughtful people who’ve been made to feel “too much.” +Exhausted from trying to explain, justify, or prove their experiences. +Longing for peace, safety, and relationships that feel mutual—not minefields. You might be googling things like “Is my parent a narcissist?” “Why do I feel crazy in this relationship?” or “How to set boundaries without starting a fight.” You’re trying to make sense of the cycles of blame, gaslighting, and emotional whiplash. You're hoping there’s a path forward that doesn’t require losing yourself again. ---------- What It's Like to Work With Me I'm not going to tell you to “just set boundaries” without helping you understand how your nervous system has been shaped by survival mode. I’m not going to pathologize your responses—they’ve been wise and protective, even if they no longer serve you. Together, we untangle the confusion and rebuild trust with the one person who’s always been with you: you. We’ll explore your story at your pace, with deep compassion and practical tools. We'll work on: +Recognizing gaslighting and emotional manipulation +Rebuilding self-trust and identity +Grieving the fantasy of who they could have been +Understanding trauma responses like fawning, dissociation, or shutdown +Learning to name and meet your own needs—without guilt +Creating boundaries that are sustainable, not scary Healing from these relationships takes more than just insight—it takes safety, community, and time. That’s why this work is never rushed. You set the pace.